- Defining Myths
What are Myths? an unfounded false idea or belief.
Synonyms delusion, error, falsehood, falsity, hallucination, illusion, misbelief, misconception, old wives’ tale, untruth LIES!
2 Timothy 4:4 New International Version (NIV)
“They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths”
English Standard Version (ESV)
“They will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.”
- Design for Marriage
- – Genesis 2: 24,25
Eden – PARADISE! Pleasure and Delight
God created Marriage to be a Paradise.
Mankind fell: Marriage Fell
God’s design for marriage was to model and reflect the image of Christ and His Church. Christ is the bridegroom and His church is the bride. Our marriages are to reflect that. God’s whole purpose is to take His Bride (Us, his church) in marriage at the end of the Church Age! If you like to party, God’s going to have a huge party for you and your groomsman – a Marriage Feast for His Bride’s Homecoming!!! You and God! Woohoo!!! AMEN???
Our marriages are to reflect His image. He is a Triune God, Father Son and Holy GHOST Marking a Triune Marriage Relationship of Husband, Wife and God.
“A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.”
When satan sees Marriage, he is reminded of the image of God, and the Rule of God. The Enemy’s job? To destroy marriages and he does that one by one with us individually! MARRIAGE is Satan’s particular enemy. He despises marriage. You get married, you’ve picked a fight with the devil! Marriage is the image of God.
Genesis 1:26 “Let us make man in our image.”
The Fall of man was also the Fall of a Marriage. However, after the Fall of Man, sin’s consequences are ever before us, because it now affects us all;
Sin came into the world through one man. And through one man all have sinned. Well unfortunately, they did not call Marriage MythBusters- and the Fall of Man happened.
1. IT’S ALL ABOUT ME!!! Genesis 3:1-6
So the scene unfolds, the curtain opens with a marriage, Adam and Eve, a perfect marriage and the serpent, the devil. Now the serpent is a snake, and snakes are more cunning than any other creature. He’s stealthy: he doesn’t draw attention to self-that’s why he’s dangerous.
“….YOU will be like God!”
#1 DECEIVER of this world! Tempter tempted us and we took the bait because we want to be like God!
- Knowledge of good and evil
- To be worshiped
- To be glorified
My Story: I was 18 years old when I got married. I was insecure and was looking for someone who would make me happy – to take care of me – love me – fulfill all my needs!
While we were dating and engaged, he charmed me, he wooed me, I believed he was the one who could take care of me. He loved me sooooo much!
However, the day after we got married, I knew I had made a big mistake…I mean, I had second thoughts before we got married, but we had a big wedding planned, and I thought we couldn’t cancel it now! After we got married, our marriage consistently went down the drain.
My perfect marriage bubble popped when my expectations one by one were exploding in front of my eyes. It appeared, once Ron won his prize – ME, there was no need anymore for attention and romance. He became consumed with providing for us and I felt abandoned. I felt un-nurtured, deceived and trapped in my young marriage, and didn’t believe there was any way out!
Hindsight is one thing, and I realized later that I was sooooooo in love with how much he loved me…I hadn’t realized that my love for him, was ALL ABOUT ME!
My understanding of what marriage was going to be like, came from my real close friend named NARCI. NARCI became my best friend.
Or maybe you have a friend just like her! They actually created and named a drug after her – NARCI. I bought that drug and everyday I would get up and shoot up, and inject myself with a dose of NARCI.
NARCI became my drug of choice. And the more I was injected with this worldly drug, I became more like my friend NARCI, which is her nickname and short for NARCISIST.
DEFINE NARCISIST: Egocentric; self-absorption, self-centeredness, self-concern, self-interest, self-involvement, selfishness, selfness, self-preoccupation, self-regard
Are you hearing the common denominator in all these words….SELF! My marriage was ALL ABOUT ME!!! I was very self absorbed
- You are to make me happy
- Meet all my needs
- Adore me
- Worship me
- Love me
Although I wasn’t consciously thinking this, my subconscious said,
“I have said in my heart, THERE IS NO ONE BESIDES ME!” it wasn’t about serving and loving him, it was ALL about him loving me! Nor did I know that I had an Image of Satan – to live for self… my needs, purposes and always using others to meet my needs.
The core of all sin – PRIDE, WE WANT TO BE LIKE GOD!
Why do you think this was such a big issue for Satan?
1 John 5:19
“We know that we are of God, and that the whole world lies in the power of the evil one.”
God is trying to build His Kingdom… He tries what he can to get you to serve and worship him… not God! HE HATES GOD!!!
That is why Satan fell from heaven in the first place, was because he wanted to be God. And 1/3 of the angels came with him…now he has an army! This world is His Kingdom! The world? You mean earth? Yes and I mean everything the world has to offer!
The truth is: IT’S ALL ABOUT GOD!
MYTH BUSTER #1! ITS NOT ABOUT ME!
Mark 12:30 “And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your mind, with all your soul and with all your strength!”
How do you love the Lord this way?
- You need to know Him by having a personal relationship with Him so that you can fill that void in your heart that will only be filled with His presence; you need to become Born Again John 3:3.
- Serve Him…Johnn 14:15 If you love me you’ll keep my commandments:
Let’s read on in John 3:6
They ate…they bought the bait…the bought the Narci drug, hook, line and sinker! But do you see, the act of sin did not just start with their behavior, it started in their hearts in verses 1-5.
Scripture doesn’t spell it out for us, it’s left to our imaginations, but can you imagine the conversation Adam and Eve were having…”should we or shouldn’t we? Does God really want us to be deprived of the one thing we can’t have?” They started to question God’s love, care and devotion to them.
James1: 6-8 says ‘one who doubts is like the wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. For the one who doubts is like a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.”
Scripture goes on to say. 1:13 Let no one say when he is tempted, I am tempted by God for God cannot be tempted by evil, and he Himself does not tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. “
I bet Adam and Eve walked around that garden, and never paid too much attention to the Tree of Good and Evil. It was there, but there was no power in that tree. They focused on what they could eat in the garden, not what they couldn’t eat.
When Satan entered the picture, can you picture the scene, I bet he guided and led them over to that tree, and had them look at it and had a chat with them…the three of them gazing at the tree.
John 3:1-4, “Did God say You shall not eat from every tree of the garden?? You surely will not die – He lied….
John 8:44, Father of all Lies. However, he accused God of lying, trying to keep them from their God-given potential. It truly was an attack against God!
John 3:5 But this is the hook that he used, “for God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened and you will be like God, knowing good and evil…” Be like God??? “Hum…” they must have thought. “Never once thought that was a possibility!”
They NOW saw the tree was desirable – good for food and a delight to the eyes…really? They had no interest in that tree before he came around and now they think it’s desirable and delightful? He drew attention to the tree that they couldn’t have.
His purpose? To draw your attention away from all the good things God has given us and only focus on the things we don’t or can’t have.
The first stage of temptation when something is forbidden is to Look.
After they Looked, It started eating away at their hearts. It was now a temptation, where before it wasn’t – But did God only tell them not to eat from that tree? Do you remember what else God told them? Not to touch the tree. The first stage of temptation was to look…gaze, dwell, lust – that lusting causes us to act, to make the first move…touch the forbidden fruit. That forbidden fruit for us today could be alcohol, walking into a bar when you know you have issues with alcohol, drugs, misuse of prescription drugs, going into a store and looking at all the things you can’t afford, flirting with another man in person or through our technology today of text, chatting, etc… What is the bait that causes you to first Look and flirt around with temptation, and eventually touch? I believe the reason God added not to touch, was because even then, they still had an opportunity to choose to obey God and not overtly sin. They still had a choice! Just as we have a choice when putting ourselves in compromising situations.
HAVE YOU EVER PUT YOURSELF IN A COMPROMISING POSITION?
SHARE MY STORY;
I’ve put myself in a few compromising positions, as a believer and after I came to know Christ. Before I knew Christ, my heart was lonely. I wanted out of my marriage soooo bad. I didn’t know Christ then, so I was looking for love in all the wrong places. Unfortunately, I was unfaithful to my husband twice during that time.
I deliberately put myself in compromising positions, because I desired to be compromised. After I came to know Christ, I found myself in a compromising position with an emotional friendship with the opposite sex.
I was prideful…it was ALL ABOUT ME! Pride causes us to Look, touch, and sin. As we look back at Adam and Eve, because of their pride, it became full blown sin. You can’t Look and touch, without it becoming full blown sin…Like a hole in a hose…
“But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.”
There was no trust in the Lord or they would have contemplated, “There must be a reason why God does not want us to eat of this tree, therefore we’ll trust Him,” Trust turned into doubt, doubt turned into double mindedness, a foot in both kingdoms… The Kingdom of God –it’s all about HIM. and The Kingdom of the World-Satan’s world…all about me!
Satan is very subtle… He will cause doubt in our minds… He is not ALL KNOWING like our God, but he has the capability to whisper in our ears the myths, the lies, and tempt us to follow the world, to follow him, instead of our Lord Jesus Christ.
The answer is humility. The way up is down… I Peter 5:5-6, James 4:6 Philippians 2: 1-4
#2 MYTH: MY SPOUSE COMPLETES ME!
SHAME – GUILT – CONDEMNATION
“Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loin coverings.
They heard the sound of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God among the trees of the garden.”
Before they sinned they had free access to their relationship with God and to the presence of the Lord….all the time. They walked and talked with Him – fully naked, they didn’t know they were naked- they walked unashamed in the garden with God.
Genesis 2:25 and the man and his wife were both naked (vulnerable) and were not ashamed (no guilt/condemnation.
They were transparent, nothing to hide, open to the each other. No hidden agenda… Their purpose was to abide in His presence so they could
- Love and Serve God
- Love and Serve each other
After they sinned, they had to pay for their sin they had consequences…here are a few…
- If you remember when we read Genesis 3:23-24 read…Thrown out of presence of God – separated from God, no longer able to love and serve the Lord freely as they had because their hearts were no longer pure- they’ve now tasted sin and fell, fell out of Paradise and from the His presence – that affected everyone on earth to follow, through one man all become sinners. Rom 5:12
- Lost their identity – They’re now ‘sinners’ – no longer able to just love and serve each other, they are no longer the same two people – they lost who they were! Their hearts had changed and they became ashamed and untrustworthy, aware of evil…they were now self centered, self seeking, selfish sinners…
3:7a immediately after they sinned, their were eyes opened…Knew they were naked.
3:7b said they were embarrassed and ashamed they covered up their sin with fig leaves
3:8 Hid from His presence
BEFORE SIN: Adam and eve were clothed with God’s glory, and they would not lose their covering as long as they obeyed God; They were protected from all that the devil wanted to do to them.
The consequence of the fall is that we now have the temptation of not only trying to hide our sin from God, but hiding ourselves in our marriage relationship…, we cover up who we are, we are ashamed of who we are, we are confused of who we are.
We don’t want our spouse to know the real us!
We put on pretences
MY STORY: After we first got married, I went to bed with my makeup on so I could wake up with my make up on, for fear that Ron would see the real me! How absurd is that!! I hated my nose…I wanted everyone to look head on at me so they wouldn’t see the profile of my big nose. I had soooo many insecurities! I was in bondage to my own self!
We have a hard time being naked (vulnerable), because we’re fearful, we’re…
- Insecure… If you really knew the real me, would you reject me?
- Insignificant… If you really knew the real me, would you think less of me?
- Unsatisfied… If you really knew the real me, would reject me and not desire me anymore?
These are our core issues of life that we all struggle with from now and until we are face to face with Jesus. This is where Satan attacks us at the heart level at our Core of our being,
Security, Significance and Satisfaction.
We either think too little or too much of ourselves – What is the balance?. We are sooo prideful! We struggle with letting go and being content with who and how God made us.
How do we fulfill the Second Commandment
Mark 12:31 the Second Commandment is this; You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
WHO is our neighbor?
Our friends, the one next door, one at the grocery store, our family, our kids and our spouse!
if we’re not sure what loving ourselves is all about, how are we suppose love our ‘neighbor’?…
I’ve heard others tell me, “Loving ourselves sounds selfish, and doesn’t sound real Christian.” Maybe you’ve thought that, maybe you’ve said that same thing to someone else. I’ve had clients tell me that. For the sake of this talk here today, let’s look at this as having a biblical image of self –
What do you think about yourself? The word says, your thoughts define who you are and give you your identity…how do you think of yourself? What thoughts twirl around in your mind like a paintbrush, painting the picture of the image of who you are?
If your thoughts are anything other than biblical about yourself, you will find yourself sucked into the world, sucked into the world’s system, buying into anything you can to find that fulfills satisfaction, significance and security.
Your paint brush paints the Image of the world; sucked into the world’s system.
What is the World’s System: Magazines, commercials, TV programs, internet, etc…all the world has to offer
If you don’t receive your SSS from the Holy Ghost, then you will Not think well of self, and therefore not able to love your husband with the biblical love that God has for you.
What does GOD think of you??? Do you believe you have a new identity? A new name? He’s created you in the Image of God. What does that look like?
2 Corinthians 5:17 “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.”
What does God think of you? WHO ARE YOU IN CHRIST?
- King’s Child
- Holy vessel
- Joint Heirs
- New creatures
- Bride of Christ
- YOU CAN ADD TO THIS LIST – IT GOES ON AND ON…
We need to change our thinking…we need to think about ourselves the way God thinks about us!
Not thinking more about ourselves than what we should and not thinking less of ourselves than what we should…we need a biblical view of ourselves!!!!!!!!!!!
What gifts and promises has He given you???
- Fruit of the spirit
- Eternal life
- Fellowship with God.
- His presence
- Spiritual gifts
- Counsel of the Holy Spirit
- His Living Word
- List goes on and on
When we do not know WHO WE ARE IN CHRIST, we become on the Treadmill of Performance, A SHAME BASED LIFESTYLE.
Our self-esteem is pending on what we do, not “Who We Are –
My story: Performance Based Mom, Perfectionist…
This phrase absolutely changed my life….this is the price of admission right here and would encourage you to write this down:
GOD CONVICTS BEHAVIOR (WHAT YOU DO) TO RESTORE YOU. DEVIL CONDEMS CHARACTER (WHO YOU ARE) TO DESTROY YOU.
If you are feeling depressed…you know what depression is? It is a pressing down….heavy feeling of hopelessness.
Symptoms OF A SHAME BASED LIFESTYLE :
- Self doubt
- BLACK and WHITE
- Self works
- Addicted to approval
You can live without depression, shame and condemnation, because that’s what God’s Word says,
Rom 8:1 Now therefore, there is no more condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus.”
You can live in the HOLY GHOST without Shame and CONDEMNATION! You can be real and genuine –NO more pretense.
NAKED: We have a hard time being naked (vulnerable), because we’re fearful, we’re fearful of TRUSTING EACH OTHER
If you don’t know it by now, your spouse will disappoint you! Whether you have unrealistic expectations (which we will talk about in the next myth) or If your spouse is not making efforts to fulfill you in the areas of SSS, then please try to discuss this with them. The bible doesn’t say to be a doormat. If you have problems in the areas of communication, sexual intimacy, financial, discipline of the children or any other areas, please try to be a peacemaker.
You can either Overlook, Discuss or Negotiate.. Or you may need Assisted help with someone who can help facilitate a situation to help you both be heard and understood as stated in your brochure on the other side of the brown pie on the slippery slope.
Sometimes you both may need biblical counseling, or maybe they are not physically or mentally able to. After doing all you can do, if they still disappoints you, you can rest in the Truth that You already Have SSS in Christ! Your fulfillment and completion has to be from Christ, not in each other…you can learn to live in a spirit of contentment;
Philippians 4:12 “Not that I speak from want for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am in.”
But I want you to understand that even when your husband disappoints you…God will never disappoint you and will always give you what you need…maybe not what you want, but what you need. Philippians 4:19 God will supply ALL your needs.
Do you believe His word? Do you believe what it says in 2 Peter 1:1-9 when He says He has given you EVERYTHING FOR LIFE AND GODLINESS…DO YOU BELIEVE THAT???? HEAD NODS…YES,//..THEN WHY ARE SOOOO BUSY TRYING TO FORCE YOUR HUSBAND TO GIVE YOU WHAT GOD HAS ALREADY GIVEN YOU????? That’s only going to cause conflict…and that is another topic for another time!
At this time, I do want to make a disclaimer. If you are in a marriage situation where something is illegal, immoral or dangerous is occurring, PLEASE seek outside assistance.
Out of the overflow of your view of yourself biblically and all the abundant gifts He’s given us, is the only way we can love our husband as ourselves as Mark 12:31 says. A proper view of self and understanding what we have in Christ, leads us through the spirit to be completely SSS in Him!
The Garden of Even – Paradise, which was lost with Adam and Eve, has now been made new, in the Promised Holy Ghost, living inside of us. The Garden is Now the Spirit of the Living God.
I really want to encourage you to take the higher road. Woman are natural redeemers. I would say over 90% of calls we receive in reference to marriage and family are from women! If you can’t work it out yourself, please get help…but please DO something.
The truth is:
MY MARRIAGE IS COMPLET IN CHRIST
MARRIAGE BUSTER #2 …MY SPOUSE CANNOT COMPLETE ME.
#3 MYTH: MY SPOUSE WILL CHANGE AFTER WE GET MARRIED!
(BLAME *(offense, victim mentality, complaining, blaming-not taking responsibility for our own behavior OR taking responsibility for someone else’s behavior. )
We continue to struggle to be like God…we can’t accept who we are so play God and try and change our husband and believe if he changes, then we would change.
3:9 Asked them Where are you?
3:10 Afraid b/c of nakedness so he hid from God
3:11 Once again, God uses questions to hold Adam accountable
3:12 What does Adam do? Blames God for giving him Eve and
3:13 Eve blames the serpent
Neither one does not want to take responsibility for their behavior and blames the other!
On the flip side, one can receive hurt and all the damage, but hides it by enabling the other person and not make them responsible. They take all the blame and pain. This produces passive-aggressive behavior; pout, withdrawal, silent treatment. Insanity, doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results is not taking responsibility for your own behavior
My shame, my lack of acceptance of me, causes me to make you fulfill the void in my life that only God can do…I will make you change so you can make me feel SSS. You will change, BECAUSE IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU COMPLETING ME, BECAUSE IT IS ALL ABOUT ME!!
The Progression of an Idol or another way to say it is, the Progression of sin.
D Image of Satan if to live for self…my needs, purposes and always using others to meet my need
J Misplaced trust leading to judgment, I think you… PROVERBS13:10
As I shared… we cannot take responsibility and own our husband’s behavior and responses, but we sure can own ours.
You may think he deserves to be treated wrongly, but that is not scriptural and that is sin
Romans 12:19 “Do not repay anyone evil for evil, but …”
MY STORY, I tried to change my husband the first 11 years of our marriage. I was miserable. He wouldn’t change, and I grew more hopeless all the time. I became depressed and was starting to take my disappointment and anger out on my son. I sought counseling, for the first and only time in my life. He wanted to put me on anti-depressants… however, ONLY by God’s grace, did I understand that the only reason I was taking it out on my son, is because I was soooo miserable in my marriage…I knew I had to change.
God is using your spouse to mold you and shape you…My husband is the godly man today because of me… Cleansing our soul and giving the gift of forgiveness is the key. You do not have to sin when sinned against.Don’t justify your behavior. You can share how you feel, but you cannot enforce it!
One person needs to be willing to do the right thing even when the other is doing the wrong thing…like sin! Proverbs 19:11 a soft answer sturns away wrath.
MY STORY: I deserved better… compared him to others before and after we were married.
MYTH #3: I CANNOT CHANGE MY SPOUSE!
MYTH #4: GOD WILL NEVER GIVE US MORE THAN WE CAN HANDLE.
This myth is taken from:
1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.”
These verses are NOT speaking of Trials/Tribulations/Sufferings, but of Temptation. God will always give you more than you can handle, or you wouldn’t need HIM!
Isaiah 48:9-11 “For the sake of my Name I will refine you and test you in the furnace of afflictions. And my glory I will not give to another.”
In Beth Moore’s Daniel study, pageg 46, Beth shares that there are three different scenarios when God’s children face the fiery furnace of afflictions;
- We can be delivered FROM THE FIRE – our faith is BUILT
- We can be delivered THROUGH THE FIRE – our faith is REFINED
- We can be delivered BY THE FIRE – our faith is PERFECTED
We need to find hope in a broken world, broken marriage and our own personal brokenness. We have shattered dreams, shattered expectations and trials and sufferings..etc.
We cry, “God where are you? I thought you would never give us more than we could handle?” Marriage will now come with conflict, difficulties, trials, sufferings.
Why? Because marriage is nothing more than two dysfunctional, messed up people who want to be like God trying to make marriage work. Don’t you think God has such a great sense of humor???
I get a charge out of God! He takes two dysfunctional, messed up people, and brings them together to make a beautiful marriage! But we bring all our baggage with us and together, we now have a messed up marriage!
It’s in this Furnace of Afflictions, that we try to make a godly marriage combined with 2 sinners. Our expectation are high, leads to disappointments leads to No hope, leads to destruction of a marriage.
As mentioned in the #2 Myth, you will be disappointed by your spouse, You will have shattered dreams. shattered hopes and shattered expectations. Proverbs 18:24 “Hope deferred makes the heart sick.” Marriages die because of a broken heart because one believes.
1 IT’S ALL ABOUT ME
2 MY SPOUSE WILL COMPLETE ME
3 I WILL CHANGE, OR THEY WILL CHANGE AFTER WE’RE MARRIED
4 GOD WILL NEVER GIVE US MORE THAN WE CAN HANDLE
SHARE MY STORY, Wanted out, healed our marriage, Boys gone, Ron sick, uemployed, no health insurance…This was not the way I thought my life would end up when we became empty nesters.
You can either compete or comply with God’s plan for your life – AND IT ALL IS PENDING ON HOW YOU PERCEIVE YOUR SITUATION…YOU PERCEPTION…RIGHT OR WRONG, IS YOUR REALITY.
He is writing your story, and it may not be the story that you want, but it’s the story he wants for you. You are set up to fail with the wrong mindset. The devil builds strongholds in your mind – False Expectations.
Luke 12:25 “And which of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life’s span?”
If we believe a lie, we’ll do it! Renewed thinking will bust those marriage myths to pieces:
We can have emotions, but we don’t need to let them have us
Everytime you do what is right, even though your feelings don’t follow, you’re gong to grow!!!
We are called to suffer…
1 Peter 4:12-13
“Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal among you, which comes upon you for your testing, as though some strange thing were happening to you; but to the degree that you share the sufferings of Christ, keep on rejoicing, so that also at the revelation of His glory you may rejoice with exultation.”
1 Peter 2:21
“For you have been called for this purpose, since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in His steps.”
Spiritual BATTLE; You have to deal with the devil, you can gain VICTORY!!!
Jimmy Evans in OUR SECRET PARADISE states that…
You were born into a theater, a spiritual, cosmic battle…Ephesians 6 and Ezekiel 28, Earth is a battlefield God warned Adam and eve about the battle.
Genesis 1:1 “subdue the earth and take dominion…” subjugate take the earth by force! To take dominion and subjugate are military terms; means to take it Violently and by force,
They DID NOT TAKE AUTHORITY.
You will have constant disappointment if you believe you can have constant peace on earth while you’re in this battle ground. We’re locked in a vicious battle, and we have an enemy the devil
1 Peter 5:8 “Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”
This is not peacetime – if you make it peacetime, you’re going to lose and destroy your marriage and everything else and everyone around you cause he is looking for someone to devour.
Jesus died on the cross and defeated the devil so we could all live in victory. We have the authority to live in victory. You don’t have to fear the devil, you need to understand and Stand against Him.
In order for the banks to identify counterfeit money, they need to study the real thing. Then when the counterfeit comes, they will be able to see it.
2 John 10:10
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.”
You are at war! You will be disappointed! You will suffer! Understand that the devil has assignments to destroy you and your marriage, you CAN live in victory. Defend and fight for it.
I NEED TO CHANGE
Trust always requires having unanswered ? In your life. You need to be asking the right question: “What am I learning through this? How can I serve God and glorify him?”
The truth is: Ephesians 3:20 “Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us.”
MARRIAGE BUSTER #4 GOD WILL ALWAYS GIVE US MORE THAN WE CAN HANDLE!
After 39 years of marriage, God took me one by one, through these Marriage Myths and Busted them wide open, one by one. Today, Ron and I are a living testimony of a marriage redeemed by the God’s grace and forgiveness. We have committed for the rest of our lives to help others in their marriage conflicts because of how God healed ours.